Okay I’m just going to come right out and say it: I’m not a “new year, new me” kind of girl.
Do I enjoy a fresh start? YES.
Do I like setting new intentions and goals to work towards? KINDA, SORTA, OKAY YES.
Do I love any excuse to buy a new planner, new notebooks and maybe a new pair of workout leggings or 12? HELL YES.
But, in the words of my first friend, Anne Shirley from Anne of Green Gables: “tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it.” Basically, I don’t need January 1st to roll around to motivate myself to start fresh…..I can do it any damn time I want.
So, New Year’s Eve/Day is really just another excuse to drink champagne and dance on tables.
Or go to bed at 10 PM. Which is what I usually do.
What I will say about 2018 is that it has no “life events” for the O’Malley Family. No big moves, no wedding to plan/pay for, nothing we HAVE to do or HAVE to save for.
But yes, before you ask, we are hoping 2018 brings us a baby.
No, I’m not pregnant yet.
2018 = endless possibilities for the O’Malleys. Well, endless possibilities within a budget because we both agreed that after hemorrhaging money on our wedding last year, 2018 will bring a big focus on budgeting and saving money for the aforementioned baby we are hoping will join us this year.
Again, I’m not pregnant yet.
And now, I’m going to contradict everything I just said about resolutions and tell you that I no longer fit in my clothes. Yes, I could switch to only wearing leggings but even those got tight while we were in Tahoe for Christmas.
I fell off the wagon after our wedding. I fell HARD.
When I say “fell off the wagon” I mean I took a month off from the gym and ate A LOT OF SHITTY FOODS. I ate so many slices of pizza that I almost turned into one; I had sweets and hamburgers, pasta and Mexican food, beer and cocktails.
What? Doesn’t everyone deserve a break after trying to fit into their wedding dress and not have a double chin in their wedding photos?
Now that all the “eating holidays” (aka Thanksgiving, Christmas and NYE) are over, I’ve decided to get back on the wagon. January 1st just happened to be a happy coincidence. Or maybe it’s not, maybe I am actually a “resolutions” person after all.
Here’s something else you should know about me: I’m not into dieting anymore.
I know what you’re thinking: “YOUR LEGGINGS ARE TIGHT, DRASTIC MEASURES MUST BE TAKEN.”
Nope. I refuse to solve that with doing some diet like Weight Watchers or Keto. I’m not saying they don’t work: if you are doing these diets and they’re working for you, go on with your bad self! They’re just not for me.
I’ve been there, I’ve done that. I counted calories, I’ve restricted myself to one meal a day to lose weight, I’ve starved myself, I’ve taken diet pills, I’ve sat in a dressing room at the mall and cried over the size of my jeans. It all sucked. I don’t want that life.
So, here I am, writing this little blog post trying to hold myself accountable and hoping in the next month my leggings will fit again.
Here are 5 things I’m doing to get back into a healthy lifestyle that DOES NOT include dieting:
ONE: I'M EATING HEALTHIER SHIT
Jumping right into a new diet cold turkey is like jumping into a freezing cold pool.
I know myself. I can’t do that.
I do know that I can start small: making small changes that lead to bigger results. I’m trying to incorporate something green into every meal, drinking a shit ton more water, drinking only 1 cup of coffee during the week and cooking at home more. I was doing all these things before my wedding and felt really good, so I know I can do them again without freaking out and quitting because I'm overwhelmed, which is how I've felt about almost every diet I've started (including Whole30).
No crazy diets, no cutting anything from my everyday diet but adding in little changes that will help me start to see results.
TWO: I'M GETTING OFF MY ASS AND GOING TO THE GYM
I go to a gym that I LOVE. It's called The Studio and I think it's the best gym in Ventura. If you life in the area, come to class with me! Their group workouts are hard but doable and I've seen so much progress since I started there in August 2016. I told myself I will go 3 times a week. That's an attainable goal to start with, which also gives me a chance to increase as needed.
Which leads me to: FIND SOME GYM FRIENDS. I have a few girls I go to class with everyday. They are my support system and we suffer in solidarity. We also talk shit to our trainers, which makes the class go by much faster.
Starting at a gym is SO HARD, and if you see a new person at yours, give them some encouragement or introduce yourself. We all need a helping hand, especially at the gym.
THREE: I'M SLEEPING
I am a terrible sleeper. I have nocturnal anxiety. That's not a real thing, but my anxiety loves to visit me at night, right before I'm trying to go to bed. To sleep, I have to take Unisom. I am trying to get myself to sleep naturally, but that's a whole other post for another time. Right now, I'm just focusing on sleeping at least 7 hours a night. I'm trying to keep myself on a sleeping schedule with the same bed time and wake up time every weekday morning. When I sleep, I feel better. When I sleep, I'm better at work, better at the gym and better at home. Sleep is becoming a big priority for me right now, especially because I suck at it so much.
Basically I'm an infant again.
FOUR: I'M STARTING TO USE ESSENTIAL OILS
I'm hoping this helps me with my sleep problems mostly, but I'm also getting into them for the health benefits. My friend Rachel has been essential (pun intended) in helping me navigate how to use oils and teaching me about their benefits. It's really easy for me to have our diffuser running whenever I'm home and not only does it help make our home cozier but I've noticed that we haven't been sick once this winter! WINNING
FIVE: I'M NOT BEING A BITCH TO MYSELF
Okay, this legit goes against everything I think and feel but being hard on myself doesn't help me reach any of my health goals so I'm taking it easy on myself. Less negativity, more grace. Although I wish I was healthier overnight it's just not going to happen, so I need to be patient and give myself time to let the changes happen.
Damn it. Now that I’m reading this I’m realizing that I just might be a “resolutions” person after all…..
Also, please bear with me as I get back into the writing groove. It's not coming as easily as it used to and I'm being weirdly hard on myself so hang in there while I get the hang of this again.